The Flow On Effect

Not many people out there will understand what it is like to manage to do things when you have Autoimmune disease/s, except other fighters.

When we get sick or our health declines (slowly or quickly) it doesn’t take away our will to do things with it. That can even grow stronger inside us.

It is one of the hardest facts, and the most common thing that healthy people will almost always take for granted, which is that we want so desperately to be able to achieve things and accomplish goals.

Some of the most talented, creative, motivated and intelligent people I know battle these diseases and yet it is rarely recognized, the tremendous difficulties we face each day; even by health care professions.

Everything we do, or try to do, has a price and a toll. We rarely ever tell people these facts and we do our best to hide and conceal it from the world.

I recently connected with a talented interior designer and artist who also has Sjogrens and SLE. Like many of us who are creative, she battles the fatigue and the pain to do the things she loves. But undoubtedly there is a price to pay for doing these beautiful things and she pays that price.

My artwork and blogging causes pain and vision problems. My gardening causes pain and sun exposure, which in turn takes a long time to recover from. But the alternative is painful too.

Everything that you can imagine doing causes a flow on effect which ordinary people will not be able to conceive let alone appreciate. Most people don’t want to know.

Our renovations, which has been a huge undertaking for us, has also been some of the hardest times for so many different reasons.

In order to change the kitchen so that I will be able to move around it more easily we have had to pack the entire kitchen into boxes that have been piling up in the house. This in turn means that I can’t move my walker or wheelchair around the house, which means that I have been confined to one area of the house. This has been the situation for over a month now and it has been so hard. Moving around boxes has meant the back pain that I had recently undergone spinal injections for has returned, which means I spent another birthday in awful pain. It’s been heartbreaking. Everything has a price. The flow on

Just like a small stream can lead to a mighty river!

Delays in painting has seen me attempting to do some painting myself from the chair and this has been excruciatingly painful to my hands, hips, back and vision. But I just can’t let my husband do it all himself, so I try to push through, and then return to bed in tears, pain, tremor and spasms. One day like this means I will suffer all day and night for weeks, which means extra pressure on every other daily activity, like showering.

Everything has a price. A very high price.

Recently an autoimmune friend spent a day at the beach with her precious family which caused her a week of pain and suffering, but I have no doubt she did it all for the family she loves and for a moment to feel alive. This is why we do it. To feel some life and a little pleasure that so many people take for granted, and we also do it for the people we love so desperately.

My husband and I have often discussed the terrible price I pay for doing even the simplest of things, perhaps we will always have this discussion and debate about how to pace myself better. It is always a difficult topic as the line keeps moving everyday and is so unpredictable.

However much I suffer and struggle, however much I may cry and battle, the truth is at the end of the day I am the type of person who always looks back and regrets the things I didn’t do rather than the things I did do.

Perhaps this is a fatal flaw in my personality and reasoning, and also one of my hardest battles with chronic illness?

I hope that one day I shall find an answer it all, in the meantime I am so grateful for the fact I am not alone.

Gentle hugs.


11 thoughts on “The Flow On Effect

  1. I do not think it is about autoimmune disease in particular. Instead I find it is more abut the loss of ease in doing things. I woudl love to experience easy once again. Just one easy thing. Easy rocks.

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  2. Every week we go to visit our granddaughter and I get down on my arthritic knees to play with her, I lift her up and carry her when she asks and my muscles ache for days after. I just recover then we visit again. The same goes with holding her hand when we have a walk and my back muscles go into spasms. I ‘know’ that I’m causing myself pain but nothing will stop me from being with her and seeing her face light up when she sees us. As Rick says, I would love to experience easy again.

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  3. OMG I can relate on some levels. I have fibromyalgia. Some days are great and I tend to overdo things around the house and the art that fills me with joy. I love to crochet and knit and I am getting into mosaics. Some days I can barely move. The fibromyalgia is a unwanted gift that keeps on giving. I get anxiety, stiffness and pain, insomnia, and so on. The battle sucks but I refuse to completely give in and rest when I must.

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    1. Thank you so much for your comment and for sharing your experiences. I value the feedback and the connection so much.
      I am always so happy when others understand and sad because they do. That’s the two sides of these awful diseases. We are a large and amazing family of fighters.

      I do wonder if we are doing ourselves a disservice when we call it “giving in” when it really is just doing the only thing we can do to try and help ourselves carry on? Maybe we are not seeing it as ‘medicine’ for our damaged bodies but rather fighting our bodies need for care by calling it giving on the illness.

      I am guilty of this myself but I always wonder if I am perhaps not seeing it in the right way. I hope that made sense xx

      Sending thoughts your way my chronic sister.

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