I believe this piece can easily apply to anyone these days, sick or well, and it isn’t an easy topic to tackle. But I will do my best, as always.
I find these days it is increasingly difficult for people to put themselves ‘out there’ due to the amount of people who seem to take offense and issue with every little thing we do or say.
What is happening to us as a society??
Each picture we share, each comment we make, each detail we reveal about ourselves seem to motivate people to not only form their own opinions (even if they don’t have a clue about all the facts or factors) and to direct them at you.
My husband and I discussed this in depth and he said he feels the same pressure and confusion every day now. Every single call, every single exchange and every single transaction is fraught with potential problems. He says he no longer wants to share anything with anyone anymore. It is that bad.
Friends, family, business interactions and the general public are hostile places and potentially painful experiences.
Sadly, I agree with him.
What has happened to us as a society that we feel entitled to pass judgement on each other’s every move and decisions?
My mother once told me that in order to stay sane in this world you have to be prepared to keep to yourself and let people’s comments slide off your back. Build a protective shell around yourself and be prepared to be alone for most of your life.
She lived a very isolated existence in her later years, avoiding social situations, businesses and the general public. But she was happy to plod along in her garden and on her farm, alone. She was content with fewer and fewer people in her life and I now understand why.
I didn’t want to believe her back then and what she told me about people in general, but I absolutely do now.
Things have gotten so bad that my husband and I agree that we should not share anything with anyone anymore and keep to ourselves; even more than we do already.
I can’t help feel a deep sadness that things like respect and encouragement are going and social interactions are becoming more and more like a blood sport.
The days where everyone feels entitled and empowered outweighs responsibility and compassion.
Time will tell if this way of interacting will be more peaceful, less stressful and far less disappointing for us, but I can’t help feeling sad that this is where we are at in 2018 and this is what we are forced into becoming.