Many people who don’t know me don’t realize that most of the time I go anywhere with Derek in the car I am sat up in the passenger seat while he runs errands. 

It takes a lot just to get to the passengers seat and sometimes I return home exhausted and in pain. 

The movement of the car causes my vertigo to make me nauseous. The sitting causes my muscles and joints to ache and the light can cause headache And vision issues. 

Why do I do it? Because I love my husband and I don’t want him to feel alone. 

Many years ago I decided if all I could so was offer him a hand to hold and an ear to talk to, then I want to do that. 

He sits beside me when I am sick in bed. He holds my hand when I feel like it’s all too much. I want to give back. 

It’s not always easy. 

But there is very little about this new life that is. There is a lot about it that touches the heart. 

I am always surprised by the amount of things we will do and have done for our partners. 

I can honestly say that at this point in life that there is nothing that we will not do or haven’t done for each other. No matter how hard. No matter how painful. No matter how long. 

Nobody knows as they see me sitting in the passenger seat, chair reclined, that what I am doing is showing someone I love how much I love them. Acts of love are like that. Even at our weakest, frailest, most painful, saddest and hardest times there is always some small thing we can do to show  love. And if we are loved in return it is recognized and recipricated. 

Gentle hugs, 

Trish